Dear AuDHD Auntie,
What are the Best Apps for this AuDHD mom to keep my life from falling apart?
-Trying to Keep It Together
Dear Trying to Keep It Together,
Ooof, sounds like your plate is overflowing! You’re not alone. So many of us struggle to maintain life for ourselves, let alone managing the needs of multiple people as a parent. You’re not alone.
Some unique challenges for AuDHD parents are navigating how to prioritize needs when your needs and your kids’ needs are not always compatible. Often, it’s mom who compromises her needs so kids’ needs are met, but then that leaves you under-resourced, overstimulated, and too dysregulated in your nervous system to show up in the ways that you want to for your kids.
Apps for AuDHD Moms
While there is no one-size-fits-all approach that works for everyone, here are some of the tools folks I talk with have found helpful:
This is especially useful for folks dealing with lower interoception (the ability to feel sensations from your body like hunger or the urge to go to the bathroom) or alexithymia (difficulty recognizing, identifying, and expressing emotions). This app supports folks in helping to describe what they’re experiencing through a series of prompts that narrow down to naming particular feelings or sensations. It also tracks your documented experiences, so you can begin to notice any patterns that might emerge.
I know some parents who enter their info together with their kids at the end of the day as a way to connect and learn more about each other.
Kinda like the Tamagotchi of 2025, this app helps you complete tasks in order to care for your own little birdie creature. As you care for yourself, you get to care for your finch! It’s a way to gamefy care tasks that can be difficult to muster motivation for.
For folks who love quests and side quests, this app helps you turn chores and tasks into quests to make the mundane into a game, giving you dopamine boosts as you check things off your to-do list. As you complete tasks, you earn rewards. Connect with friends on the app and battle monsters together!
The Forest App helps you stay focused by incentivizing you to keep your phone down. Every time you want to focus on a task, you plant a tree. Then, when you leave your phone untouched for 30 minutes, your tree grows! This app also partners with an organization to plant real trees out in the world. Help yourself and help the planet as you focus!
The Sweepy App is a tool tailored to support ADHD folks who struggle to keep their home space neat and organized. This app also makes a game out of chores and tasks to boost motivation and dopamine around getting stuff done.
Xoxo,
AuDHD Auntie
You deserve tools that lighten the load, not shame you for how you move through the world. Experiment, play with these apps, and keep the ones that feel good. Just toss the rest.
And hey… if you’ve got a question or a meltdown-in-public moment you want to unpack with someone who gets it?
✨ Submit your own letter to Dear AuDHD Auntie 💌
She’ll help you figure out the hard stuff with zero judgment.
